Exit, boundary & safety planning needs legal + somatic vetting [developing]
Key Questions
What is DARVO in no-contact strategies?
DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim-Offender) is a common post-exit tactic. Vetting no-contact plans counters this manipulation.
How to differentiate influence from manipulation?
Influence respects boundaries; manipulation exploits guilt. Tools like Nedra Tawwab's worksheets clarify this for exits.
What financial planning is needed for leaving?
Secure finances early, as in Dagney's story, to handle smear campaigns. Gray rock and stay-go assessments aid safety.
How to handle post-betrayal boundary setting?
Use scripts for gaslighting and silent treatment. Holiday planning and support for loved ones prevent DARVO escalation.
What is the gray rock method for trauma bonds?
Gray rock involves emotional neutrality to break bonds. It starves narcissists of reactions during exits.
Vetting no-contact/DARVO (ex-ef27ae29/ex-645b1625), guilt-free/influence vs manip (ex-5e3487f6/ex-ca35d014), pre-exit (ex-f196915e), post-betrayal (ex-a48c36b9/1A2e8LfV), holiday (ex-d317e1c2), worksheet (ex-d8d0ddbd), Nedra Tawwab (ex-19r9Nvvh/ex-1A867Si6), Dzilala (ex-d1a07566), smear (19mmsrm9), financial (ex-f672f4c8/ex-f578b218), stay-go/bonds/gray rock (ex-a037acbf/ex-44541dc0/ex-de90833e/ex-c28bd90e), narc scripts/gaslighting/silent (ex-399f08a1/ex-64bd0320), Dagney (ex-94415f5f), support loved ones (ex-9d96d166), not therapist boundaries/codependency (ex-1cf93594). Post-exit tactics (ex-1f038d2c), trauma bond exit steps (ex-38db7c77).